I hate men!
I am 99% sure that my "friend with benefits" gave me herpes. (I am waiting for my test to come back) I know I shouldn't have been sleeping with him in the first place but he was always the one I went to when not in a relationship, which is almost always. FYI we used condoms but I got them in an area it didn't cover. I am pretty sure he was having an outbreak because a week ealier he slept in a bed with me but wouldn't hook up with me which is a first, he must have had them then and they weren't healed a week later. I should have known better! I should have been suspicious of his wierd behavior a week earlier.
No man that I have been honestly interested in has ever committed to me and I am 31. They always give excuses like "I just got out of a relationship" or "I need space" which I guess transfers to "He's just not that into you", yes, I have the book! I was freaking out about being single and then I got herpes which makes it ten times worse. I am just so bitter because I never wanted to have a lot of sex partners, and I don't think I have compared to a lot of people...but I always get in situations where men cheat or won't commit. I am college educated, I have a great personality, and on a good day I look like I could be in Stuff magazine. I have the body of an 18 year old and no wrinkles, I am not lying. I guess those qualities aren't enough. I just hate men so much right now. All I have ever wanted
is a boyfriend and now I feel like I will NEVER have one. I know I probably pick the wrong guys, but I tend to only be attracted to the really fun, confident men that every other girl likes too. I am sure most of them have herpes though, with what sluts they are! Sorry if I offended any male species.
I have had herpes for 3 years
I have had herpes for 3 years now. unprotected sex one time with the man I was falling for and that was my present. The one thing that annoys me the most is when my friends say "dont worry, you will find someone who will love you even though you have it." No way. I have dated some, they are all the same. As soon as you tell them they will actually say "i cant sleep with you". or the ones who will sleep with you just want a one night stand and not a relationship. noone wants to be in a committed relationship with someone who has it. So i stay with the man who gave it to me. its not fair but i dont believe someone will accept you if you have it. that man doesnt exist.
I wouldn't feel guity
I wouldn't feel guity either. He deserves it!!
Hey CM, I feel the same way
Hey CM, I feel the same way at times, but I have found someone that I love but unfortunately I haven't told them about my situation...I always called it the situation too..just don't like the other word you know..it hurts..I', just about to come up on my 10 year mark with this thing...only had a few ob the entire time i've had it 2 a year at the most..and I'm thankful for that...well I wish you the best of luck..
Hey Beenthere, thanks for
Hey Beenthere, thanks for your story, I am in a situation where my mate doesn't know that I have herpes, we have been having protective sex but he does't want to use the condom anymore, I always say that I am not on birth control and don't want anymore kids..what do you think will be the easiest way for me to tell him...I'm so afraid of losing him...please help...
I have been in the same boat
I have been in the same boat as you. Men who use women come to me, lie, decieve, etc., so I'll have sex with them. I'm also educated and beautiful. This last guy I met I told that I really liked him a lot, and I did. I told him I wanted to get to know him and that I didn't want to have sex with him. He took what he wanted from
me because he knew I had been single and not sexually active for 11 years. Little did he know my cheating exhusband gave me herpes 11 years ago, but I just found out three years ago. After using me and playing mind games with
me for three weeks, he won the heart of a woman he'd been in live with for two years (he failed to mention he was in love when he used me.) I hate men too and I don't feel the least bit guilty that he probably has it now and will pass it onto her. I do feel bad for her though. She's young and pretty. I didn't know she existed until last week. So now that's his problem.
Story of my life. I was so
Story of my life. I was so stupid and blindsided by the guy who gave me herpes. He had told me he had slept with hundreds of girls but I was already in love with him and still continued sleeping with him. I still hang out with him and I can't understand myself. There's some days where I'm happy and know I could get through life with this disease and there's other times where I feel that no man will want me, ever. Those are the days when I call, text or go hang out with him. How could a girl be so stupid? :( I don't understand! :( :( :( It's been 3 years...
Hunny, don't worry. I am now
Hunny, don't worry. I am now 21. I got herpes when I was 18 years old from my "friend with benefits" I too felt like my life was over, I couldn't believe what had happened to me. Why me? What did I do to deserve this? I was 18 and had the disease. I thought my whole life was over. Now almost 3 years later I'm realizing that it's not. Everything will go back to normal. Some days I hardly even think about my disease. Sometimes when I'm lucky I forget all about it, the only times you really think about it is when you're having an OB. If us girls can go thru life with one period every month . WE too can learn how to live with this disease. Your first outbreaks are the worsst....it wont be that way all the time.
hi i just find out 3 weeks
hi i just find out 3 weeks ago my boyfriend sleep with his sister inlaw a few times i have been with him for 10 years have 5 kids to him last week i got test done for std today i got my test back i find out i have Genital Herpes type 2 i was so upset and i cry i feel my life is over when i got home i told my ex boyfriend the news he got his test back as well but it shows he got Genital Herpes type 1 when i told him the news i said its so worng i end up with it after he was chearting on me i feel like going back to the doctors and get a other test done because i know sometimes the test can be worng but i feel iam alone in this and i will never find anyone because they may not wont to know me because what i have i really dont know what to do i feel i have it all my life and iam so worry about it hope to hear back from someone thanks
Hi CM. I totally understand.
Hi CM. I totally understand. I know this post is old, but i still feel like it's hitting home right now. Just found out. not sute how long I have had it. But I meet a really handsome , suave and worldy guy over the Holidays who turned out to be an ex-ball player and a real player (did knkow till after we...). I should have followed my instincts and never called him back! He told me that he had been with 500. Once I heard that, I immediately felt dirty. I ended that relationship. I hadn't thought he gave me any thing, but I went to the doctor for all type of tests any way. In the mean time, I hooked up with my ex-boy friend, with protection. Once my test came back, I found out that I had been exposed to HVS2. I'm not even sure if he gave it to me, but my intuition leads me there, because I did notice a couple of bumps i thought were razor bumps. I swear, life has taken a complete turn for me. I'm very attractive, great career, beautiful home and physically fit. I admit, that I was getting kinda of cocky about my great life. now i don't have my old life anymore, as I feel like this "thing" has taken over. I swear, I'm scared to touch myself. every little thing I see on my body seem abnormal to me. I feel like I can't be sexy anymore, hang with friends, go party or live! I was that girl that walked into a room and girls and guys would stare and either talk to me or ask about me. To make it worse, I'm still dating my ex and I have not told him! I, like you, am still in dilusional about my real situation. I think, how crazy is this, that it will go away! I know. But I have to be optimistic. Otherwise, I swear, it will take over my life. I just pray that there is a cure or vaccine for people that are not infected, so I can at least feel like I can't infect anyone.I wanto break up with him, but he's a great guy. I'm so confused.
Re: I hate men
Hi, I can identify with you. You sound like the female version of me. I just wanted you to know that my long-term 4 year relationship partner cheated on me - repeatedly - which I see now clear as day, but didn't see then - sound familiar? Not being able to see the wierd behavior... Now I'm having outbreaks and can't even tell her because she wouldn't accept responsibility - not for anything - there wouldn't be any point. I feel as you do - that my life is over and I'll never have a relationship again. For me, as I work a program of recovery - from alcohol and emotional issues -that I've come to the realization that we can't play the victim role. There are consequences to sin and it is a sin to have sex outside of marriage. I don't know if you believe this, but I do. To get over or through this WE have to look at our roles in this and stop blaming other people. Trust me - I know it sucks. I don't know how I'm going to make it through this. I'm going to look to my higher power, clean up my life and start living life in a manner pleasing to God and trust that he'll take care of the rest. Maybe you should too?
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