My wife now has genital herpes
My Wife and I have been married for 25 years, and together for 26 years. A couple years ago, she told me we would have to abstain from sex because she had a sore in her genital area. She went to her Gyn. who confirmed it was genital herpes. We both had to get a blood test, and she came back positive, however I was negative (for g. herpes). Since that time she will get outbreaks every 1-2 months. My question is, is she having an affair? She claims she must have contacted it before we got together. Thanks for all responses.
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I wish you nothing but the
I wish you nothing but the best. I'm so sorry for you.
Unfortunately it can. If
Unfortunately it can. If there are no stress factors, etc... you could never have an outbreak. There are others that are carriers and don't realize that they have it until they infect a partner.
I am the previous anonymous
I am the previous anonymous ...... Well, I went to the gyno on Aug 13th and explained to the doctor my symptoms. I had asked the dr if a virus like this could lay dormant for all these years. I told her I was worried that it may be herpes. She said it could be possible, but from examining me she said my diagnosis was correct. I had a really bad outbreak and it looked like this was a first outbreak. I could not believe it .... tears in my eyes. She said if an outbreak looks like this and I had never had this happen before, that I must have been infected around 6-12 weeks ago. The dr of course said you need to have a frank discussion with your husband. I still do not know whether it is the HSV-1 or the HSV-2. But who cares which one it is.... it's on my genitals ! I felt so humiliated, thinking the nurses and the staff were talking about me ... that I got this virus. Like in some way I did something wrong. I left the office composed, but when I got in my car I just balled crying. How could this happen to me? What in the heck did my husband do? It has been a rough week and a very painful one. I cannot believe I am 47 years old and I just contracted herpes from a stupid decision that my husband made. So, now I join the club.
I have been married for 20
I have been married for 20 years, some of those times were rocky but neither of us has cheated on one another. We just came back from vacation, we went in the hot tub a few times and a day after we got back it started to hurt when I went pee. My urethra looked swollen, so I thought I would wait a day or so to see if the swelling would go down. Then I started noticing these pimple like bumps in my genital area. At first it just hurt to pee, now the bumps really hurt and my left groin hurts too. I already have the hpv virus. I am so scared that this may be herpes. It hurts like hell going pee and afterward. I just want to cry. I put a wet cold washcloth with ice in it on my genital area to take the pain away a bit. It helps after 15 minutes or so until the next time I have to go pee. I go to the gyno doctor tomorrow to find out what this is. I was told I had the hpv virus 4 years into our marriage, and that was a shock after I had my first abnormal pap smear. The dr did addt'l testing to find out I had this virus. So, don't you think they would of checked for everything ... all the std's? I just cannot believe too that this virus can lay dormant for all these years.
There is life outside of
There is life outside of being with your wife if you don't think you could stay with her and get passed it. If you think you could love her again than I'd recommend counseling to see if there's something still there. If not there are herpes dating sites and you'd be surprised on the amount of women that don't mind. If you're with someone that doesn't have herpes I know it's a terrible feeling that you'd pass it on to them and there's a chance no matter what protection you take but if you're in a loving relationship with someone and they're willing to take on the risk then love is out there. I know it seems like the end of the world now. Anger is an emotion that comes with this and once you're past the anger you can evaluate your situation and what you want with your life and if she is going to be in it or not. Best of luck.
I'm so pissed off right now.
I'm so pissed off right now. Yet i don't show it. My wife cheated on me. And we seperated. A month later I found out she had a boyfriend. It wasn't the guy she cheated on me with. So this new dude gave her herpes which she said she didn't know untill she went to the doctor for a check up. But that wasn't until we got back together now i might have it. I love her but i don't know what to do. If I leave her I WILL live the rest of my life by myself. Cause I feel I wouldn't be no better than the guy who gave it to her. And.... If I tell someone I got herpes they wouldn't want to be with me anyway. My life is over, This is some BS....
Amazing story. Thanks so much
Amazing story. Thanks so much for sharing.
I met my husband two years
I met my husband two years ago and I wanted to have sex the first night and he wouldn't so the next day his sister (who thought she was going to destroy his chances with me ) told me he had genital herpes. I am actually and std phoebic person to the extreme but I loved him after staying the first night. When I called to ask him he was in tears when he told me. I cried and realized what a wonderful person i could loose if I let that get in the way. I went to his house and made love to him and I have been with him ever since and we haven't spent a night apart. I have also never had an outbreak or symptoms of genital herpes or taken any medication except when I was pregnant as a precaution and I love him just the same as if he didn't have it at all. Genital herpes may be a bothersome thing at times but you shouldn't let it get in the way of loving someone. I have a beautiful son and a wonderful husband and if I had let this STD get in the way I would have missed out big time. Don't let something so small bother you it's actually not a life or death situation and to be married so long you apparently love each other and she may have not got it somewhere else a docter told us that if one of us had a canker sore and had oral sex with the other person we could have contracted it unfortunately my husband got it from someone he had been with before me who had cheated and admitted it . I also have watched my husband cry and become depressed at times over having genital herpes being a strong support system and not being negative towards your wife will help a ton. Research this STD get facts and I promise you guys will get through it. I hope this helps you some and Good luck :)
Her friend was pretty much
Her friend was pretty much correct that everyone has herpes, just not type 2.
At least 50% of the population has HHV-1, approximately 22% has HHV-2, greater than 90% has HHV-3, around 75% has HHV-4, and about 60% has HHV-5.
It's easy to feel that you
It's easy to feel that you might not have a future but you can. If you don't want to pass it to someone you can try out the dating websites. You'd be surprised who you could meet and the future you can have. If you don't want to try a dating website you can actually meet someone other than that. You'd be surprised out receptive most women are. Before you're ready to have sexual relations just be honest and up front and tell them you got them from your ex-wife and explain how it's passed and that there's still a chance but slight even with protection. Then be proactive. Always use a condom and if you're going through a breakout, don't have sex before, during and until everything is completely healed. There's a future out there for you, the only question is if you're going to let yourself have it.
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