Dilemma about telling
Hello everyone....
I'm so happy to have found this resource because I am totally confused about what to tell my new partner... thing is we were really drunk one night and crossed the boundary of intimacy. I have had outbreaks of what I thought was molluscum, which was confirmed by my dermatologist. Then, I started having other symptoms. Not the classic herpes blisters that burst and crust over, but more like open cuts on the skin in the genital region. They are very mild. So, I went to my doctor about nine months ago. He ran some bloodwork, and everything came back negative. I was relieved and thought I didn't have herpes. So, I continued thinking I was not contagious. Then, I had another set of bloodwork done a couple of months later, just to make sure that the original tests were correct. They came back negative too, as did a swab test the doctor performed. She said that I probably didn't have it. Once again, I thought I was clear of having to tell anyone. Recently, however, my partner (who I am no longer with) got symptoms that we couldn't explain. Just recently, I began a new relationship. And, although it is very casual, as of right now, I feel horrible!!!! I know I have to be upfront and honest with anyone I sleep with from now on, even if it is just a casual fling. So, my question is... has anyone had to tell their partner after the fact of sleeping with them?
eeeeeeek!!!!!
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I have had to do that exact
I have had to do that exact thing recently and I think my worry of losing my partner because of it was what caused me more distress than finding out that I actually had it. Having it myself is something that I know I can deal with but it is when you bring into account those other people that you care about that things become tricky. I am in a casual relationship as well but I really do care about the person and knew that I owed it to him to let him know and I was completely upfront and honest with him and let him know that I hoped in would not affect what we had because I really did not want to lose it. He responded really well and we are still together and doing just fine. I think it really just depends on the type of person who you are dealing with but once you drop a bomb like this if they handle it well then you know they're a keeper. good luck!