Herpes Doctor

hi ya, I've had h for 23 years ( since 20years old ( 43 years now), at first. for the first few years i got it on the genitals, but in the last 10 years or so, i get it mainly on my outer thigh in a cluster of little blisters, I've been single for 23 years because i told a lady and she told the rest of the town. i notice there is no public education for the pubic in new Zealand let alone the world, it sucks, I;m ready to leave my home country and live over seas, yeeeaaah , cant wait, keep ya chin up m8 and don't tell any one unless they HAVE to know, i notice woman don't seen to have any problems to find a bloke whom understands, most of us men be honest and tell a lady and they do a runner within 3 days to 3 weeks (once someone else tells them, ( before i get to that stage and chance to tell her in the friendship/ relationship)i get pain up my leg to the stage my clothes hurt just touching me leg, then the blisters come up, within a week they heal up and disappear. hope this helps :-)

When people do not inform their partners of their problem it is part of the reason this disease is so prevalent in our society today! The best thing to do is tell them ahead of time before sex happens and try to give them a little bit of an education on it. How it happens, the risks and all. You can live a normal happy and healthy life with herpes. I am living proof of it. I have had many loving and understanding relationships throughout the years and have happily been in one for almost 3 years now. I have never given anyone my disease either. You just have to be careful. The best part when that happens is knowing you are with someone that cares enough about you anyways to try to work around it. Herpes kind of forced me to get to know someone before I dove into relationships head on. Chances are anyone that doesn't know you well enough to care, won't. But please do not leave someone uninformed it is not fair to the other person. It's herpes, not the black plague. I wish you the best of luck, do not give up all hope yet! I hope this helped you too. :)

your right, i believe its best to tell a new partner, before sex, but every time ive told them, they do a runner, i guess ive just never meet a lady whom cares, i got alot of lady friends that like me heaps but they dont want the rest of the town thinking that if they go with me they will have H as well,ive given up on trying to find love in my life. the woman whom i lived with for 6 months at 20 years old, 23 years ago forgot to tell me and stuffed my life up.i way i see it is you are dammed if you tell them and dammed if you dont tell them, catch 22, let alone the stress of not telling them.
what do we do???, go single for life, watching all your friends in relationships and staying single.at the moment i feel like getting on me 1000cc buell and going truck hunting, head on , 280 km/h, but that wouldn't be fair on the truck driver

omg would you stop being so negative ? this isn't helping many on this site. The truth is that freaken Herpes is JUST A SKIN VIRUS....Why is it such a big deal? Over time ob's shoud be of lesser frequency etc. I am 23 and not about to spend the rest of my life alone becasue I depress about H. More so I got it via kissing and i have antibodies for HSV2. NOT FAIR AND UNFORTUNATE? YES....Very weird but some people have HSV2 in their mouths. My ex bf (the only one I have ever been intimate with) does not have HSV2 so my dr and I figured that I must have cought it via kissing... LIFE GOES ON. So am I happy I cought it? NO... Am I happy that I wasn't lucky enough to not get it? NO...But you know what? I have a lot to offer to a guy and I deserve happiness in life, I deserve to have a real family and I WILL. So Please STOP depressing me with your depressing posts and maybe try and be more positive for your own sake...

hi i often get a swollen leg too and a cluster of blister on the top of my butt crack
i think its the lypth glands swelling that hurt so much as they try and fliter out the toxines
dont worry it will all go down and get back 2 normal - chin up xx

hey whats up, ive had for about a year now, im 23. i was forced to move away from the city i was living in. i now live 2 hours away. ive met acouple girls that i really like but just blew them off because i didnt want to spread. am i scared for the rest of my life. how and when do i tell what i have. because even after knowing someone for a long period of time and you think you can tell them they can still freak out and starting talking to everyone and then ill be in the same position i was, in the last city that i lived. i dont want to be single for the rest of my life. im scared to tell anyone. my parents dont even know. what do i do. i need help.

hey.. i kind of know how you feel. I just got it 3 months ago and the first thing I thought about when I got it was that I will never find anybody. I didn't want to tell anybody. My mom, sister, and best friend know and the guy that gave it to me. He didn't even know he had it. I'm 20 and still have the rest of my life to live and I keep telling myself that I wont let this disease take over. I am with the guy I got it from still and we're going strong.. but I am just waiting for the day that it may possibly end then I guess I will be in your situation. The only thing I can really tell you is don't push people away because you have it. It's just a skin disease.. it's not going to kill us. Just be very careful with who you tell. Tell somebody you can trust. So what if it takes you a year to trust somebody and you dont have sex for a year... it's just sex. They should understand that you're not ready.

Anyways.. I hope this will help a little. I'm here for you to listen :-)

To VICTORIA,
Have you had it for very long as well?

I hope this is a comfort to you... I am not infected with genital herpes, but I really like osmeone who is. I am a female and he is a male, to clairify. I am taking this really seriously. I am researching everything I can find. I have found that if an infected person takes daily medication and uses a condom; there is approximately a 4% chance of contracting it. Also, one out of 4-6 (depending on the site) people have H 2. I have been researching for about a week and I have been on a chat room and they say that it is irritating, but not severe and that some people breakout only once in their lives or not for 40+ years! Average is 4 times a year.

I have to tell you that I am 33 years old and I have a son and these two get along and he really wants to make me happy. We are not ugly or out of shape people and we adhor each other. After all of my research and reading about how people view themselves as less than what they were. I feel surprised at the level of dehumanization people create for themselves. I feel safe enough and confident enough that it is not that big of deal and that I will take the risk of contracting H2, if he will take daily medication and wear a condom. Maybe we will even reach our hopes of having children naturally.

I understand that the main thing that I will be sacrificing is nude sex and not a full penetration or using a female condom. Wow, if that is all I have to give up to have love and appreciation, I guess I will. He means a lot to me and it seems as thought the universe lead us together and I cannot say to the universe - no, he has herpes, I can't be with him. That is silly, H2 is on the surface, Love is in the soul.

With love and empathy,

Questions xoxoxoxo

I understand that the main thing that I will be sacrificing is nude sex and not a full penetration , this is not correct, you can do these things as long as he has no symptoms e.g from the first tingly feeling until the blisters heals up, its like a cold sore, when the cold sore is present then it can be passed on , but when the cold sore (H) is healed back to normal skin there is no way it can be passed on, think of it like this. you only have to be careful when he has an outbreak, good on you for not rejecting this man , as this happens to often for no good reason. hope this helps