Herpes Doctor

March2008,

When I first found out I had Genital Herpes, I was DEVESTATED. Being that I had only been with 3 people previous to my relationship I was in (whom I was ABSOLUTELY crazy about), I assumed that he had the virus previously & did not tell me. My feeling's of disgust & betrayal were over powering & emotionally VERY hard to deal with. My sister got my head around it stating the fact that I was not a slut but rather encountered a bit of bad luck. There are lots of people out there who have had many more sexual partners than myself & don't carry such a virus. Needless to say, it's not the end of the world.

With further investigation, my boyfriend & I had come to the conclusion that I was the one who brought it to our relationship. That was 7 years ago & he still does not have it. With a little luck & ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACT when an outbreak occurs, your man should be okay. My doctor told me that I could only pass it on when there was an reaction, therefore it was really easy for me to deal with. As I have done research on it in the past, I am surprised to find out yesterday (on this website) that one can pass it on in the absence of a reaction (viral shedding stage).

Back to the question about if your man gave it to you or not. With my experience, I was with my boyfriend for 5 months, going on six, before I had my first reaction. Before that, I was single for 8 months with out any concentual sex. However, about 2 months into being single, I did have an encounter with the date rape drug one night when I was a designated driver. It was scarey, but I got lucky...I got my period that evening & put a tampon in which was obviously not tampered with in the morning. However, my clothes were ripped off me so there was definite physical contact. I went in that day & got tested for everything...it came back with a minor infection which was rectified with a simple antibiotic.

So, is it possible I had the virus before that incident? Yes it is...but VERY unlikely. The reason I say yes is because one of my partner's might have carried the virus & was not aware of it (hence the viral shedding stage of the virus: when it replenishes itself). As well, they did not take a blood sample when I got tested...but my doctor told me that without a reaction, they would not know for certain that I have genital herpes (perhaps once the antibodies are created from chickenpox???--not sure why???).

Anyways, I know in my heart that none of them would ever have passed that on knowing they carried such a thing. So, I pin my location of picking the virus up from the Asshole who attempted to rape me & chickened out. My point here is that it can be within & no one have a clue. It was almost a year for me to have my first breakout from the point of being drugged. Even if I had contracted the virus from another source, there was DEFINITELY a delayed reaction to my 1st breakout & at that point, my doctor took a swab off of a pimple/blister & confirmed it was herpes.

There is one thing you should keep in mind & even perhaps document when you get a reaction. You should sit back & look at yourself from a 3rd perspective: observe your frame of mind, your stress level, what kind of stress & what you are stressed about etc.etc. For me, I have noticed my breakouts are ALL stress induced. Out of my 5 reactions, 1 has been caused directly by me. I was unaware that one would breakout with laser hair removal...but as the doctor explained to me, it is direct trauma to your pubic area...resulting in a SEVERE breakout. Note to self, start antibiotics a couple days in advance & run it the length of the prescribed time frame!! Needless to say, you can control & minimize your breakouts if you can discover a pattern between them.

Good luck. If you have anymore questions, don't be shy to ask...that's why these are here.