so scared
my relationship ended and now i have met someone, i really like this person, i honestly dont think i could bring myself to tell him, i told him i cant sleep with him, he said its fine but there will be a point where it wont be ok. i want to be close to him but i feel so guilty and i havent even done anything.
i have had any outbreaks or ANYTHING since my second only outbreak which was december, and before that, my first ever outbreak (i thought it was a spider bite, but i didnt have tingling then or anything but sores) it was so long ago i cant even remember how long ago.
I have no other symptoms anywhere else, my only outbreak was on my thigh, on the outside and i would always use a condom if i was to do anything, but i am so scared, conidering putting a bandage or something over the area which was infected.
i am losing my mind :( i feel like i can never ever be with anyone ever again, :( losing my mind!
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If you are going to be serious about this boy that you are dating you have to tell him... What if this relationship is to turn into something lifelong? How will you hide that fact then? I can't stress enough how important it is for you to tell him. I feel for you on that though becasue I also have a major frar of ever having to tell somone... there is no other way...
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Hi Ya, i am a man, i have an OB right now on the back of my thigh.I've had H for 23 years and get an OB every month. if you really like this man, then tell him,the chances are that he wont run. has he been single for long? , if so and he likes you, ( it sounds like he likes you) then he wont run away.if you sleep in the same bed and you have an OB on your thigh, then put a big plaster on it and don't have sex until its healed back to normal skin, don't have sex from the first signs,( tingly felling) until the skin has healed up then the chances of you passing it on are slim.don't feel guilty as you have done nothing wrong, but if you don't tell him and you pass H to him , then you would have done something wrong and then you will really feel guilty.tell him, chances are he wont run, you woman are lucky to a point, you can say you have your period or a headache or just don't feel it having sex, to put off having sex for a while, have you ever heard of a man using an excuse why he doesn't want to have sex. from a mans point of view, if you had been single for years would you run because the woman was honest, i know heaps of single men , but no single woman. I've found its the other way round, most woman without H wont take the chance of catching it as they know just round the corner they will meet a man whom likes them and will ask them out who doesn't have H, where us men are the ones who have to do the pursuing to find love and if we have been single for years and finally meet an honest woman then why would we run and be single for another couple of years.on the chat sites world wide, most woman find a man who understands and they stay in that relationship. I've been single for 23 years because at the age of 20 when the only girlfriend I've ever had " forgot" to tell me after living with her 6 months, i had no one to talk to and told a couple of people and they told the rest of the town, please don't make the same mistake.
good luck, hope this helps