Herpes Doctor

I promise! I was diagnosed during my senior year of college so I was about your age. I am now 31... When I was diagnosed I had been celibate for over a year so I suspect who I got it from, but I have no way of knowing for sure. I date men both with Herpes and without...it is always awkward to have "the talk" about my condition, but the truth of the matter is that people are a lot more compassionate than we give them credit for (even men...lol). Just educate yourself on your condition, so that when you tell someone, you can give them real information. I always tell people that they should research it themselves...so they are more comfortable too. Just take care of yourself and your health! It will lessen your outbreaks...for most people, over time they have less and less outbreaks. If not, you can go on suppressive therapy (that is what I ended up doing). The funny thing was that as I got used to dealing with it, I opened up about it to a few of my friends and turned out one of my best friends has it too...No there is no magic pill that will make everything better, but it is not as bad as it seems now! You will go on, date guys, some great some not so great! Find the one, get married, have babies, and live your life...herpes will not rob you of that, unless you let it.

I contracted herpes, then gave it to my wife, and 2 small children. It is in our mouths now, but I am sure will become genital for the 2 girls under 4 years old. There are worse stories out there than yours. I have sentanced my whole family to misery. For you, females, I have been told, have less pain than men, and over time most women do not see much affect because the immune system catches up with the virus. You should tell your boyfriends, and always use condoms until you marry and have children. Your life will be fine, I promise. 25 % of people your age has this. Be positive (unlike me sometimes) and live your life.

I went through the same thing, hard to say who gave it to who. Chances are came from oral sex...a cold sore in your mouth ended up somewhere else... We all get cold sores. So you probably gave it to each other, simultaneously! If you stress about it, you will probably end up with more outbreaks. Just relax, exercise, eat well, take supplements, and get enough sleep. That is what will keep you healthy! And be careful about anti-depressants...can cause more outbreaks!

there is lots of kids who have cold sore and don't get genital herpes, I heard it is rare for a kid to get it genitally.

Hi. I just found out my boyfriend of 3 years, knew he had it and didn't tell me until now when I saw a fever blister in his mouth and he finally told me. Now, I have it genitally.
How can you sound so positive and make like everything is fine???
Doesn't it hurt like hell? I'm so depressed, I don't know what to do.

Your such a positive influence so I'm writing you. I'm used to rejection since I've had it. I've had herpes since I was 21. I'm 30 now. I don't have the support that you have. I do have a good friend that has herpes, but she's married and doesn't have to worry about anything. Then I have another good friend and her best friend has herpes and never has been rejected for it. I always have been except for a select few, and they turned out not being the one for me. And I know even though I Herpes I don't have to settle for less. And all the men I've dated haven't had herpes and never got it from me. I'm not normal but would like to feel normal sometimes. Can you help?

People usually feel very anxious at the beginning. Is this the end of my sex life? Is there a cure? How do I get rid of it? These are all very common questions. If you feel very anxious, ashamed or dirty you may want to participate in a local herpes support group. There are several forums online. Online support groups are a good place to start. People can learn to talk about herpes, share personal experience and speak with others who are already in control of herpes.

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I know exactly how you are feelng...I was tested yesterday and my dr. is almost certain that i have herpes and i obviously got it from my boyfriend, and I am soo scared to tell him. It is extremely apparent that he doesnt know he has ior he would've told me...I know he would have. I am scared that the same thing is gonna happen to me when I tell him. So could you give me any advice or tell me how you approached your boyfriend. Im 18 years old and we have been dating since december...we spend everyday together and i love him very much, and although he tells me that he loves me....im scared that his love may not be strong enough to outweigh the whole herpes situation. Im scared that he will try to deny it to when there isnt anywhere else i coud've gotten it from...Im just praying that the results come back negative but I dont see that happening. So any advice from you or anyone would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance...

Hey there, this is my first time actually talking about herpes to anyone.. im 17 and got herpes in Feb. 07' it was really hard on me and there was actually a few times where i thought that i couldnt keep living like this because no guy would want to be with me.. i felt depressed for awhile and more depressed when i'd start talking to a guy.. i have a boyfriend now and i didnt tell him until last week that i had herpes.. i was so scared but it was something i had to do.. i made sure him and i didn't do anything sexual so i wouldnt be scared that he would get it.. and when i told him he took it like i unexpected.. he told me he still likes me and it won't change and he's still gonna care for me like he always has and you have noo idea how much weight has been lifted off my shoulders.. i still feel like i need somone to talk to so i can relate with someone who actually has it.. its hard at this age because no one wants anyone to know.. if anyone could talk to me about it i'd really appriciate it.. Thank you