Herpes Doctor

sorry to hear about your pain. You said you found someone else so enjoy that and put this pain behind you. I didn't understand the comment about cholesterol level - can anyone explain?

Thanks for your response. The man that I was previously dating said that he didn't want to continue dating me because he was afraid of getting herpes from me. He said that the reason why he was so nervous about getting herpes is because he has high cholesterol and that if he contracted herpes it would make his condition worse. That makes no sense to me.

I want you to know that i commend you for your honest to be straightforward in the beginning with your boyfriend!!!! We all deserved to be loved no matter what the circumstances. I'm kind of going through the same situation now, except I've been dating my boyfriend for a month and we have had sex and I've told him about my herpes after the fact, and he is still around right now like the clock has gone backwards, and we are not having sex right now, but I want him to love, respect, and want me for me. I just wanted to commend you agian for your honesty in the beginning and I hope I didn't make a big mistake, because he has been one of the best things that has happened to me in years. Any tips please let me know on how to make things any easier on him and his heart.

I hope it worked out with your guy and that his heart was in the right place. If not, then you are better off knowing now and finding someone else who will not reject you for having herpes. I dated someone I thought could be "the one" for a month. I, too, told him I had herpes after we'd had sex a couple of times (which I know is wrong and I've always been up front with people before). Well, he broke up with me. Even after he forgave me for withholding the information, he said he simply didn't want to "get herpes". I read an article by someone who said that if a guy did that, then he just wasn't that into you. I've had herpes for 12 years and have never been rejected before because of it. I'm struggling with it emotionally, but know that it's true that if he really had been "the one", he would've stuck around. I also truly believe that if they have all the facts and you can work together, that is key to the outcome. Ignorance and fear will surely make them run. Good luck!

who understands love? you obviously fell for this guy, i feel your pain. i just found out i have genital herpes and i feel like crap. i don't want to feel rejection either. that was brave of you to be honest and you did the right thing. i was also in a whirl wind relationship, planed to get married and the whole thing. but after one month short of a year, we split. it took me about two years to get over him even though i married shortly after that to a childhood sweetheart (turned out to be a nightmare). anyway, i have read that in many serious relationships and engagements, there is usually a split, what happens next determines whiether or not the relationship will heal or break. it also reflects on how the couple will deal with future conflict should the relationship resume(so pay attention). Maybe this guy really does have true feelings for you, but doesn't understand himself or is scared. he is still calling you, he must miss you. i don't know? but if you care about the relationship, keep the communication doors open. I am not good at figuring out my own love life, but i am a psychology major. hope i helped.

Great post !! !

It sounds to me that he is very confused. He must see that you are a wonderful person and loves you for you, but can't get the herpes out of his mind. Just like people that are diagnosed with herpes, at first they feel like that is who they are now. We're still wonderful people, that have a condition. Maybe he doesn't have enough information about the condition and can't get past it, but still loves the person that you are. some people question what it would be like if they met someone and found out that there was a possibility of contracting this condition that can cause physical and emotional pain. What would they do in the other person's situation? Would you be confused? Is it worth having it for the rest of your life if you don't know where the relationship is going? That's what some people ponder over when they are told by someone they care about that they have herpes.
I'm glad you've found a new person that accepts all of you and is not put off by the herpes. Maybe you just weren't meant to be with the other guy.

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