figuring this out
Posted February 2nd, 2006 by nora
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I was diagnosed 2 weeks ago with herpes 2 and my husband has it too we assume, since we made love right before I was diagnosed- He now has little bumps on his torso that itch. Is this part of herpes or is it shingles or something else? Any ideas? Of course we will ask the Dr. but you are a wealth of info-
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the bumps
It could be a herpes sore. If you touch yourself, and then touch someone else before washing hands, this can spread the herpes. Herpes is contagious whether or not you have an outbreak, it is just more contagious during the outbreak. I'm not saying that that is for sure what it is, I'm just saying that it is a possibility.
I'm sad
Hey there,
i'm just so bummed. I have herpes II and it sucks. I was diagnosed a year and a half ago and it was not from sleeping around. I've been trying to handle it the best way i can, but i just don't know what i'm doing. How do i tell a new guy i'm dating? when do i tell him? how do i handle it when he freaks out?
I'm just so bummed out and i feel gross... even though in my heart of hearts that i'm not gross. It's just part of life, i guess...
Bummed
I would imagine having
I would imagine having herpes and dating will change the progression towards sex. So enjoy the man at every other level develop a real relationship. You know how is a diagnosis of herpes worse than. It is not diabetes or cancer but more like a allergy. Be strong -- remember it is all good. You are loved.
we all know how you feel Bummed
And then, here's the real kicker, deal with it. I have done enough crying for the both of us. Prevention of spreading, and being honest (esp. when you know its not your fault). Be open with the people you engage in sex with. now here's the difference. you shouldn't go and tell everyone. B/c people have a habit of judging without facts (we all do). and you don't want their judging to affect you. NOw, in order for you to have sex, you will have to be in something meaningful. If a guy says ok, and you're not in a relationship with him, and he's like, we'll just use a condom... i'd be critical. how many risks has he taken b4 with other partners? ew.
face it, believe it, and live with it. in a positive way, this can affect your life ......good luck... oh and she's right. Enjoy a man to the fullest--he shouldn't be expecting sex (although with society we all do). Get to know him...let him get to know you. I'm not sayin spring it on him and def don't wait till you get hot and sweaty. be loved, honey. and love. if he don't stick around he wouldn't have in the long run anyway. feel blessed that you didn't have to sit around and see for yourself after yrs of relationship. Now you might just find your soulmate b/c unless that person truly loves you they prob won't stick around when you tell them. that is a good thing, bummed.