My Wife doesn't believe me. I did not cheat on Her Help!!!!!
My wife within the last year got herpes from me. I have been faithful to my wife for the past eight years. She recently got the virus about a year ago. We have had sex before we got married and we also have had four children before her firts outbreak. I know that my wife and I feel that she has not cheated. I am having a hard time conviecing her that I have not cheated.
I am now 38 I did tell her (after we got diagnosed) that I may have contracted something when I was 17, but I was not sure. I did go to the doctor after noticing irritation and sores on my Penis, but he did not say it was herpes. He said it was a rash of some sort and prescribed medication. I have not had and outbreak that I can remember since, but after the actual confirmation I started researching pictures on the internet and it does appear that I had similar lessions.. I just want to know how can this lay dormant for this many years and after the children. Why now??????
Is their anyone else out there with a similar story???????
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SOrry to hear that bud, hard
Sorry to hear that bud, hard enough to have to go through realizing you have herpes and then being accused of something you are not guilty of, I know you must need her support right now. Love can conquer herpes,after a while (and it may be a long while) this will become something that you rarely even think about. I am sure with time she will be more accepting of the situation and hopefully for you see that you are telling the truth. Possibly suggest counciling so that she realizes how much you want to make it work. Hang in there, you'll both be okay.
thank you
Thanks for the help
similar sitch
hi! this is why i've been searching the net. I am still in partial denial that i have HSV2. b/c my boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months and love each other so much. b4 him, I was married and our sex life was nearly non-existent. So i had no idea how i could have transmitted this with only 2 partners in 3.5 yrs. I never caught my husband cheating although i do have my suspicions. but nonetheless, it seemed impossible for me to contract something from him as i always got checked and never had symptoms and he never had symptoms. all of sudden 8 months into our relationship, i have herpes. it has been very hard and up until now our relationship has been soooo good. He is behind me 100% which only made me more suspicious, sorry! but we are working thru it b/c MY HEART tells me that this man is mine, and by some odd twist of fate, i contracted this without him cheating on me. I trust him----it's hard and confusing---but i'd rather believe in my man than some disease with black and white rules. Science is proving every day that our bodies are amazing tools that may keep things under wraps and hidden away from our knowledge no matter how well we think we know our body.
some more thoughts that i wrote to "Could my doctor be wrong??"
i want to believe the same thing honey. but lets look at the facts. 70% of Americans have herpes. It is highly commom b/c a lot of them time there are no symptoms. 40 billion of us have it. dag!
i'm still in denial myself. i had the breakout and fever and flu symptoms but when i got my blood checked there were no antibodies for herpes. i am getting checked again in a month. i don't understand b/c that would mean that i get infected recently but me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months and not cheated in the least on one another.