Herpes Doctor

Hi, I am not sure if you can, since herpes is a disease where only about 20 percent of all people that have it, know that they do. I don't know how you could prove that he knew he had it, maybe you can take some form of legal action, I know you could if the same thing happened with HIV,but herpes is more of a nusience then HIV, which the effects of it are alot worse. I think many people who have herpes got it under similar circumstances, myself included. But you also could have offered protection or refused sex. As far as legal action, I don't know, as far as your emotional being, just take care of your self and learn as much as you can about this condition and how to take care of your body. Try oregano oil for helping with the outbreaks, it cut down my healing time to half and helps keep the virus at bay, you could go on suppresive drugs, but I prefer something more natural since who knows what years of being on suppresion therapy can do to a person, I don't think any one can really answer that although I am sure many people would say they are harmless, herpes has only been a real issue since the 80's, so I am sure suppressive therapy hasn't been around too long. Take care, good luck

I know he has known for 4 years because I accidentally ran into a girl that caught herpes from him. He didn't tell her that he had it but he knew. After the fact he told me that he had it and that he knowingly spread it without telling. The same thing happened to the other girl. I know I got it from him because I was tested before and after I was with him. He knows he has it, but just doesn't tell any of the partners he is with. I am just very sad because I am young. I dont want to spread this to my children, but I don't want a c-section.
There is also a twist to the story. I have been dating the same guy for 2 years. He knows about everything that happened with this other guy. He is in the process of getting tested and if he does not have herpes, our relationship will probably be over. I am very disappointed because we had talked about getting married. I don't know what to do.

You could talk to a lawyer just to see, if you had other people that he has done it to, then maybe it would help your case. I have no idea in regards to that though. I got genital herpes when I was 19, and it has not stopped my life in any way, I dated and married a non herp man,(who did catch it but has only had one sore 2 years ago,so no real symptoms, thank goodness)who is very cute/sexy/nice/loving, I did not have to lower my standards in any way because I was "tainted", I don't believe herpes makes you, me or any one else any less of a person then we were before we got it. I had one baby, now toddler who I birthed naturally, with no problems, from my understanding herpes is only a real concern in pregnancy if you catch your first ob while you are pregnant, but my Obstatrician showed me info while I was pregnant, that if you have had this for a while your chances of passing to your baby via natural birth are only 0-3 % which I am sure can be lowered further by taking anti virals, not a concern, a thought yes, but definetly not a scary enough statistic to keep me from having more kids. When I got herpes, what helped me was working out, I got my body in grat shape and it helped me counteract the negitive feelings I was having about myself. Pamper yourself and take it day by day with your bf, you never know, he might want to work through this. Arm him as well as yourself with knowledge, so you both know what your up against, this is a coldsore down south, no need to stop your life for something so little, it has taken me a few good years to see that, but it really is the truth. I wish you all the best, it will get better, the outbreaks will get less severe and painful with time. hang in there the beginning of having this is the worst, it gets better.

You do need to check the local laws on STD non-disclosure; GOOGLE is a good way to get information; if you don't have the $$, you may be able to retain a lawyer at your local legal services.
Anyone who has STDs and doesn't disclose, is, in my opinion, worthless scum.
I have had HSV I and II, and HPV for decades now. I always disclose; it doesn't always work out the way I want, but the choice is theirs. Having the integrity and respect for someone else is far better than lying.

BC

Baby i feel for you i really do :( but you sound like a gorgeous girl so im sure you will get through this and have a wonderful life.

The relationship you have been in for 2 years now you say will probably end if he finds he does not have herpes? Why is he only getting tested now if it is that important to him?

Yes, you can sue in civil court. Battery charges. No jail time for the POS but they can take what money/wages he has.

Please, don't ever do the same to anyone else. Either disclose or don't have sex.

Same thing happened to me..He asked me to break up with my long distance boyfriend of 4 years and I was swayed because long distance relationships are so hard and I was sad and lonely. Told me he was falling for me, stuck around long enough for me to fall for him, and then told me he didn't want a relationship. I was under the impression he didn't know he had it, then I find out from him after we break up that he has known for 2 years. I've never been so sad in my entire life. I actually cared about him too, which hurts even more. Now he doesn't want to talk and I'm having a hard time moving on. I'm 20 years old..the doctor at the clinic was obviously disgusted and I dont know how to find a doctor who would actually be knowledgable and helpful. I'm scared and I'm finding myself pushing away from everyone because I don't even feel like trying to make any kind of relationship with anyone....lost

123456, if your doctor was "obviously disgusted" then you should find yourself another doctor - for him/her to be disgusted at you for such a common virus, he has to either be a religous freak, or living under a rock. Either way, he/she should not be showing their personal feelings as a practicing professional.

Excellent!!! !

good on you for saying this, Ive always disclosed first as well, at least we are giving the other person a choice, not like the way most of us caught it., i've had it for 23 years and never been in a long term relationship for 23 years , but at least i can live with myself knowing i've never given it to anyone.